Shame and the Coping Mechanisms We Use
Shame is a painful emotion. As a result, we resort to a variety of coping mechanisms to cover the pain. But is it worth the trouble? This article explores the ways we try to cover our shame and a better alternative.
Grief: Can There Be a Hidden Blessing? (Henri Nouwen)
Grief is not a place to live but a process to move through to a place where life is good again. Henri Nouwen offers his wisdom on how to approach loss.
How To Pray (2): Approaching God
This is part two in a short series on How To Pray. In this post I look at what our view of God should be before we even ask for anything from Him. But remember, prayer is simple, not complicated.
God's Grace: It's More Than You Think
Do you fully understand the depth of God’s grace? Too often people limit the idea of God’s grace to simply forgiveness. But God’s grace is much more than forgiveness. His grace gives you a new status with Him and the power to change your life.
Obeying Jesus: Is It Out Of Fashion?
The early church was serious about obeying Jesus’ teachings on issues of character and service. But through the years, obeying Jesus has fallen by the wayside. What can we do to change that?
Victim Mentality: Who or What is Controlling You?
A victim mentality is when you feel helpless to make changes because you believe you are trapped in your circumstances. Yet you may not be as immobile or powerless as you think. Learn practical steps to reclaim your agency and begin finding freedom again.
Should A Wife Submit to Her Husband?
Should a wife submit to her husband? The Bible says so, but some people weaponize the Bible against women. So, how do we make sense of the Bible? Maybe we are asking the wrong question.
Temptation and How to Develop Self-Control
Learn ten practical ways to strengthen your self-control so you can better resist temptation, based on insights from the book The Willpower Instinct.
Deep Hurt, Deep Healing: You Are Perfect In Christ
This is the final post in a four-part series focused on how to find deep healing from a significant and profound hurt. The concluding steps involve embracing your new identity in God and welcoming His Spirit fully into your life. Additionally, you will find a list of helpful resources to support you on your healing journey.
Deep Hurt, Deep Healing: Finding a New Identity in Christ
This is part three in a four-part series on Deep Hurt, Deep Healing, focusing on how to overcome the persistent pain of shame. In this post, F. Remy Diederich explores how God’s boundless love and unconditional forgiveness serve as the essential starting point for the deep healing process. By embracing these truths, you can begin to reclaim your life fully and move forward towards lasting restoration and peace.
Deep Hurt, Deep Healing: What is Shame
If you have been deeply hurt, have you found deep healing? Our hurt is often rooted in the pain of shame. But what is shame and where did it come from? Why to we suffer from it? This post will explore these questions.
Marital Meltdowns: How to Divorce Proof Your Marriage
What are the secrets to a successful marriage? This post outlines some of the lessons my wife and I learned in over 40 years of marriage as well as how to divorce-proof your marriage.
Churches That Abuse: Six Warning Signs
Churches that spiritually abuse people often share several common characteristics. This post lists six key traits outlined in the book, Churches that Abuse, which will help you to identify these harmful patterns.
Unconditional Forgiveness: Is it Biblical?
Unconditional forgiveness is the belief that you forgive someone even if they show no sign of remorse or change. Is this biblical? In this post you will learn about the three levels of forgiveness outlined in the Bible.
Lose Your Christian Cliches and Jargon
Too often, Christians simplify their talks with clichés and jargon. This can feel disrespectful to both people and God. We can do better. This post explains why using clichés and jargon doesn’t help share your faith clearly.
Toxic Pastors and Why They Are Not Confronted
If toxic pastors are so harmful, why are they so rarely confronted? Here are ten common reasons people avoid confronting an abusive pastor — read through them and see which ones resonate with your experience.
Set Healthy Boundaries: Four guidelines
People often wonder whether it’s healthy to set boundaries in a relationship. If so, where should those boundaries be drawn and how can they be communicated clearly and kindly? Did Jesus model boundaries in his own relationships and ministry? This post will offer practical direction and guidelines for establishing boundaries in your relationships so they can become more resilient, respectful, and less stressful for everyone involved.
Five Reasons People Struggle to Find God
There are many reasons why some people choose not to believe in God. Often, these reasons are deeply connected to negative or painful experiences within church communities. This post explores five common reasons why individuals decide to stop believing in God, while also offering one positive reason that encourages faith.
Divorce, Remarriage, and Grace
Jesus’ words on divorce and marriage can feel condemning. What was his point? If you are divorced, what does his words mean for you? This post will offer you a better understanding of Jesus’ teaching.
Spiritual Abuse Checklist, by F. Remy Diederich
Sometimes a checklist is necessary to confirm what we suspect is true. Here is a concise 20-point spiritual abuse checklist to help you identify whether you are involved in a spiritually abusive church or organization.