Why Can't I Forgive? - the secret to forgiveness
Forgiveness is hard, leading people to ask: Why can’t I forgive? There are reasons for that. And there is a simple shift in thinking that can help you to forgive.
The Anger of Personal Tragedy - Day 15
This post continues the series looking at how to overcome a setback. Today we look at the anger that comes from experiencing a tragic event.
Anger and Secondary Losses - Day 12
Many people get stuck in anger because they are unaware of the secondary losses associated with their anger. This post explores secondary losses.
Can you forgive and still feel anger?
Many people struggle with feelings of anger even after they believe they have forgiven their offender. Can anger and forgiveness coexist? This article takes a look at this important question.
How to apologize well - part one: admit
An authentic apology requires four essential parts, yet most people unfortunately fail to address all four components effectively. This post serves as the first installment in a new series where I will explore the critical need to honestly and fully admit what you did to offend someone. It is only when you take this complete responsibility that the person you have hurt will be willing to even consider offering you forgiveness.
how to forgive the Unforgivable
Is it truly possible to forgive everything that has been done to us? Are there actions or experiences that remain unforgivable, no matter the circumstances? This post delves into these challenging questions and examines the deeper, often complex levels of forgiveness.
How to Forgive: Forgiveness is a Choice
Forgiveness is something that many people often talk about but fail to truly put into practice. This is because it requires intentional effort and emotional work on our part. However, the process begins with one simple but powerful step: making a conscious choice. The question is, will you choose to forgive?
How to Forgive: Remember There is a Nazi in You
This is part three of a four part series on learning how to forgive. In this post I look at the need to reframe the offense that happened to you. It’s important to realize that you are capable of doing the very thing that was done to you.
How to Forgive: Setting Four Levels of Boundaries
Setting boundaries in a relationship is truly an art that requires thoughtful reflection and clear communication. This post explores four important types of boundaries you should consider based on the specific nature of the relationship you are involved in. Establishing good boundaries not only protects your well-being but also creates the space needed to genuinely forgive those who have wronged you.
How To Forgive: Set Boundaries
It’s hard to forgive if someone keeps offending you. Setting boundaries in your relationships will enable you to create space and be able to forgive. This is part two in a series helping you to forgive people in your life.
How to Forgive: Be the Hero
There is no formula for forgiveness but there is a process. If you are struggling to forgive someone, this four part series will help you to understand this process. It starts with being the Hero by making good choices.
How Do I Forgive My Ex?
Forgiving your ex can be a powerful experience that leads to freedom from your past. This post offers the story of one woman who was able to forgive her ex. The post is the beginning of a four part series that will help you to learn the process of forgiveness as well.
Raw Shame; Ten More Ways We Manifest the Pain of Shame
Shame is a powerful emotion that impacts us in many ways. What are some of the ways that shame manifests. Here are ten ways.
The Anger Behind the Anger
A personal experience with my children helped me to learn something about anger. There are primary and secondary losses that cause our anger. Understanding them is the key to overcoming your anger.
Forgiveness: Moving on From the Hurt
People often refuse to forgive their offender because they see un-forgiveness as their defender. Their protection. But choosing not to forgive is more like a cancer that slowly eats away at you over time. Is that what you want? Consider another way.
Four Ways to Defuse Hurtful Arguments
Arguments between couples often escalate because hurtful words are used as a shield by people who struggle with shame. How can you defuse arguments and move toward more constructive, healing conversations? This post offers four practical, compassionate ideas to help you respond differently and restore connection.
Shootings and Shame - what is the connection?
Shootings are common in our world today. Is there a common denominator that links these shootings? Could it be rooted in the shooters shame?
Why Can't I Forgive?
Why can’t I forgive? Many people ask that question. Here is one reason and a possible solution.