Too often church pastors want to control the thoughts and behaviors of their church members. This undermines God’s desire to develop a relationship with people individually. The Bible tells us that we are meant to make our own choices.

When you’ve experienced church abuse, or any significant loss, it’s easy to get stuck in a form of exile where you feel lost and disoriented. This post offers a brief roadmap to help people find the path to recovery.

It seems to be a mystery why a pastor would ever abuse a member of their congregation. But abusive pastors exist throughout the church. This post discusses the reason why some pastors might be abusive and what you can do about it.

There are many reasons for winding up in exile: divorce, betrayal, financial loss, etc. In this post I mention five ways I ended up in exile, mostly due to bad church experiences.