People are leaving the church and pastors wonder why. They are speaking the truth, right? It might have to do with the words they use and the tone in which they speak their words.
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Spiritually toxic leaders often weaponize the accusation of gossip to shut down complaints. But what does the Bible say about gossip? Accusing someone of gossip is often a tactic of spiritual abuse.
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The church is losing credibility. So, is it worth your time to attend? In this post I look at what kind of church is worth attending and the kind of church that is toxic.
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COVID-19 has caused the church to be in exile. The Bible often speaks of exile. What can those exiles teach us today?
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Jesus clearly lived under the pressure of stress but he did two things that researchers have proven to be effective in dealing with stress. Quotes from “The Upside of Stress” by Kelly McGonigal.
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So much of what is called Christianity today poorly represents Jesus. It’s just bad religion. Jesus didn’t come to give us more of the same. He came to exchange something new for the old… something alive and life-changing. His resurrection was proof that his way will last.
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When you leave a spiritually abusive church or organization, you are leaving behind friends as well. How do you handle that?
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You are a leader in your church and spiritual abuse has just been exposed. What do you do? How do you “clean house” and get your church back on track? This post offers you a guide for the process.
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Toxic church people can dominate your church and ruin the experience for everyone. How do you confront the toxic church member? This post will help you to understand their shame based motivation. Part Two will give you seven steps to confronting them.
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When a pastor plans for a sabbatical you need to decide where to go and how long to go. I share my decision making process in this post.
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Stress isn’t always obvious to you. Others see what you don’t see. Stress not only exists when life is crazy. It can happen when times are good. Pastors and CEO’s need to understand the weight they carry.
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Pastors need a sabbatical after times of intense church work. But they are often hesitant to ask for it. Here’s why sabbaticals are so important.
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When you’ve experienced a devastating setback (exile) it fills you with a variety of emotions, from depression to disillusionment. In this post I share five emotions of my exiles.
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