Stars often help make for teachable moments. The New York Times published an edited interview with Taylor Swift that reflects a lot of what I wrote about in Healing the Hurts of Your Past. Here’s a part of the interview:
Your new album, “Red,” is setting sales records. Is it fun?
Taylor Swift: It’s a lot of things in there. Some days I totally appreciate everything that’s happening to me, and some days I feel everyone’s waiting for me to mess up. I’ve always been really, really aware of my insecurities, really, really aware. I never developed that thick skin that keeps you from letting things get to you.
What are your insecurities?
Taylor Swift: Well, I worry about a lot of things. I put out one album one week, and I’m already worried about the next one. I feel a lot of emotion throughout the course of a day. But not to the point where you need to be worried about me.
Taylor Swift Insecurities and Yours
A lot of people assume that being Taylor Swift is living “the dream.” But she said she feels like “everyone is waiting for her to mess up.” I can see that. When you are the underdog people root for you. When you are the top dog people want to see you fall. They want to take you down.
I don’t think Taylor Swift is imagining these things. It’s not just insecurities driving her thoughts. It’s reality. Taking people down is how some people justify their own existence. They can’t celebrate other’s success. It only reminds them of their LACK of success. If others fail they can say, “See, I knew she wasn’t that good.”
What about you? Do you feel like you are one breath away from messing everything up…that you are only as good as your last success? That’s where it helps to know that your acceptance and worth aren’t rooted in your performance but God’s love.
The Bible tells us that God loved us before the foundation of the world (Ephesians 1), which means that his love for you has nothing to do with your accomplishments. It’s just the love of a parent for their child. When you believe this you can rest in that love and not dread living up to the expectations of others.
I hope you and Taylor Swift can be thankful for that this Thanksgiving.
Learn more about overcoming your insecurities in Healing the Hurts of Your Past.