Last week I posted pieces of a message I spoke called “Defining Forgiveness: What it Is. What It’s Not”. The message is a part of a larger series on Restoring Broken Relationships that I’m giving at my church. Both at church and online the messages are having an impact.
In the coming week I will share pieces of a new messages on How to Forgive. But to start I want to share parts of an email sent to me last week from a woman who was able to forgive her ex-husband. I hope it encourages you if you are in a similar situation.
I am so amazed by how prayers are answered. I have been asking God to bring someone or something into my life to show me signs or give me direction. I was stuck in the mud; I had only healed to a certain point and leveled off. It wasn’t enough, so I prayed for more direction.
I listened to your message last night about forgiveness. Every word of this hit home with me on such a deep level. Your definition of what forgiveness is, but more so the definition of what it is NOT, was so meaningful. In fact, I had such a feeling of peace. I understand now what forgiveness is and how it relates to God, and that was such a missing link for me.
I realized today that I wasn’t angry anymore. I thought before that in order to let go of the anger, I had to trust my ex, or excuse what he did. I can’t trust him, but I can choose not to remember like God wrote in the Old Testament. I can allow him to build trust. I can let go of the anger and feel peace. It’s over. It’s all in the past. I realized that if I want to move forward and excel in life, this anger has got to go. So I let it go and God has helped me do it. My shoulders feel relaxed!
I know it will be a continuous process and through prayer I am achieving the strength I need. My ex was here tonight to pick up the kids and I told him about this. I told him that I forgive him. It was a powerful moment.
I am eager to move on with my life. I understand it’s a process, but I made a huge leap out of the mud I was stuck in. I wanted you to know that. I feel fantastic! The grace of God has left me at a loss for words.
It was great to read this. I hope to read many more like it! Please share these posts with people who are struggling to forgive. You can learn more about forgiveness in STUCK.
Question: Do you have a story of forgiveness? What was the tipping point that enabled you to forgive?
- Defining Forgiveness – Three Things That Forgiveness Is (readingremy.com)
- Defining Forgiveness: Five Things Forgiveness is Not (part three) (readingremy.com)