Everyone is hit with loss. How you view your losses determines if you get stuck in loss or bounce back.
I’ve talked in other posts about the difference between a scarcity vs. an abundance mindset. Let me contrast these two again with pie charts.
Each wedge in this chart represents a loss and the damage to your life:
- A: Abuse
- B: Rejection
- C: Failure
- D: Betrayal
- E: Your ever shrinking sense of wholeness
If you view your losses through the grid of scarcity, you see your life getting smaller. You become increasingly hopeless as you feel losses chipping away at your life. You wonder if you can hang on any more because bad things keep happening. This view is often accompanied by anger and depression.
But if you look at loss through the grid of abundance, your life isn’t chipped away. The loss causes a temporary set back (the blue wedge) but as you invite God into your life, he helps you to grieve the loss, absorb it, and continue on with your life.
A scar remains, reminding you of the loss, but the wedge is gone. It shrinks back to nothing. So instead of loss chipping away at your life, with God’s influence, loss actually expands you as a person; it makes you deeper and able to be a resource to other hurting people.
I hope this helps you or the people you might work with.