Forgiveness Quotes by Desmond Tutu

Forgiveness quotes by Desmond Tutu

Desmond Tutu on forgiveness

I just finished my second book. It’s called STUCK…how to mend and move on from broken relationships.  It looks at issues of anger, loss and forgiveness.

Desmond Tutu has come face to face with hate and forgiveness. Here are a few of his forgiveness quotes.

Forgiveness quotes by Desmond Tutu

The first quote helps to define forgiveness. So often people don’t want to forgive because they think it diminishes the offense. Not true.

“Forgiving is not forgetting; it’s actually remembering–remembering and not using your right to hit back. It’s a second chance for a new beginning. And the remembering part is particularly important. Especially if you don’t want to repeat what happened.”

We also don’t like to forgive because it feels like a cover-up…like we are just “playing nice” and the feeling of hypocrisy and phoniness is too much to bear. But Tutu says…

“Forgiving and being reconciled to our enemies or our loved ones are not about pretending that things are other than they are. It is not about patting one another on the back and turning a blind eye to the wrong. True reconciliation exposes the awfulness, the abuse, the hurt, the truth. It could even sometimes make things worse. It is a risky undertaking but in the end it is worthwhile, because in the end only an honest confrontation with reality can bring real healing. Superficial reconciliation can bring only superficial healing.”

Finally, I appreciate what he has to say about humanity, or as I like to say, dignity. It’s important that we are careful to preserve the dignity of humanity that God gave to every one of us. Forgiveness is really a way of respecting God even though our offender may not.

“When we see others as the enemy, we risk becoming what we hate. When we oppress others, we end up oppressing ourselves. All of our humanity is dependent upon recognizing the humanity in others.”

Question: Are there forgiveness quotes that  you’d like to share with  me and my readers? Leave them in the comments below and “share the knowledge” on Facebook as well. Thanks for joining the dialogue.

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4 thoughts on “Forgiveness Quotes by Desmond Tutu

  1. Barbara Altman

    It is truly remembering! In forgivness, you remember to keep moving forward, not allowing past hurts to obstruct progress.
    Author Barbara altman

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  3. Arnaldo

    Some more thoughts that I nedeed to share The act of ‘letting go’ or ‘forgiving’ does NOT mean that you have to continue a relationship with that person (or people) nor does it mean that you have to tell them to their face. You simply need to do it for yourself, releasing yourself of the negative, painful emotions.I also truly believe that everything we experience, especially a bad experience, leaves us at the cross road of choice do you continue to hold onto the negative emotion or do you ‘let go’ and overcome it and allow the experience to make you a better, stronger person?

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