Forgiveness Offers A Better Path

Forgiveness offers a better path

Forgiveness offers a better path

A while back I shared a post about a person who I met in the treatment center that told me “I can’t forgive”.  That was disheartening.  It didn’t matter what I said. They didn’t want to hear it. This person was too deeply offended. It was never going to happen.  I came home and wrote about the problem with saying “I can’t”.

That was two months ago. I ran into the same person a few days ago and they seemed different. I asked them how the forgiveness work was going and they said they wasn’t sure if they could do it but they were thinking about it.  It shocked me. This might not sound like much movement but I saw it as HUGE. There was a crack of possibility.

Along with the new attitude this person’s face was softer.

With God…there is always a reason for hope. He gives us a clean slate every day with the promise to help us start over. 

 Before it was clearly bitter and in a permanent scowl. I told them that it was great to see that they were open to forgiveness when before they were closed. I asked this person what made the change and they said they had found God. They got plugged into a new power source and felt an immediate change. That was so exciting to see. I  had felt so bad about their situation two months back. Now there was hope. What my teaching had no power to do on its own, God did.

Forgiveness Helps Find a Better Path

Then yesterday I received the following note on my Facebook page from a blog reader;

I have been reading your writings intently lately… What I have read so far has helped me more than you could know. I have PTSD resulting from years of childhood abuse, sexual and otherwise. My way of coping for many years took me to some dark places. I have the most trouble forgiving myself. I am sure I came upon your writings for a reason and I believe I am on a better path.  

A better path. That’s why I write…to help readers find a better path. To help people reclaim their life. So many people lose hope. But with God…there is always a reason for hope. He gives us a clean slate every day with the promise to help us start over.

I hope you find a better path too. Maybe forgiveness will point you in that direction.

 Question: If you’ve  found a better path this past year, how did that happen? (I just installed a new comment system and I haven’t gotten nearly as many comments as I used to. Could you do me a favor and comment…even it’s just to say “hi” so I know the system is working?  Thanks!”)

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8 thoughts on “Forgiveness Offers A Better Path

  1. KC

    I have found a better path though God’s word and learning to forgive myself. That was not easy, and the better-path is still a rough journey for me, but I have not given up and continually seek to find ways to make the path a closer walk with God. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I always look forward to reading.

    1. F. Remy Diederich

      Thanks so much for the feedback. I’d love to hear what helped you forgive yourself. I have a chapter on this topic in my new book. But I’m always looking for new ideas. It’s a common problem. People have told me “I don’t have any problem accepting God’s forgiveness. I just can’t forgive myself”.

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  2. Rick O.

    Unable to forgive, with nearly forty five years full of resentments, regrets, grudges, and anger; I was a huge mess. Almost no one was spared my negativity and judgement. The process of my restoration, finding a better path, began with a local Christ-centered recovery program at a nearby Church.

    Today, nine years later, God has restored me to something very close to what He wants to see. I have studied my past, the bad relationships, old family issues, my former employers, and my failures. Now those issues are put in the proper perspective, forgiven. I forgive myself because God has already forgiven me, and with His help, I now can forgive others.
    I’m not perfect, but God is my leader to a better path. I still fall down, but
    with my Savior’s help, I can get up, brush myself off, and try again.

    God’s words regarding the darkness of my past: “Come,
    let’s talk this over! says the Lord; no matter how deep the stain of
    your sins, I can take it out and make you as clean as freshly fallen
    snow. Even if you are stained as red as crimson, I can make you white as
    wool! If you will only let me help you” (Isaiah 1:18–19, TLB).

    1. F. Remy Diederich

      Forty five years!!! It’s amazing that you shifted and opened up to God and the idea of forgiveness. That should give a few people hope! I’d love to hear what the key turning points were that made this possible. Thanks for sharing this with us all.

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  3. Liz

    I always look forward to your articles and with each one I move a step further to my destination of full forgiveness. When I look back from where I am coming from I can’t help but cry to relieve myself from the experiences I have gone through. It has been a rough road. I have found comfort and promise when reading the articles on how to forgive and shame. I have found that while I am trying to re-build myself and provide a stable environment for my children after losing everything, the hope on recovery helped me to give a chance for forgiveness as a way of freeing myself. I would like you to look at the issue of forgiveness from the perspective of moving away from the location, not communicating with perpetrator and shutting yourself completely off from any form of communication. I have found that this has helped me to somehow forget and bar him from reaching out to me and abusing me. It has given me a chance to move on and work on forgiveness.

    1. F. Remy Diederich

      Good to hear that you had the courage to take those steps. Some people probably criticized you for it…said you were going “overboard”. I already wrote about this a month back or so. Search for the post: How to Forgive: Set Boundaries. I talked about four kinds of boundaries. The type you refer to is what I called “Razor Wire and Guard Towers”. We often think of forgiveness as drawing close to another person. In the case of an abuser, the first step is to get distance if you want to forgive.
      I’m glad you find my site helpful. Thanks for taking the time to share. I’d love to hear more people share their stories. That’s part of the forgiveness process; letting in light by telling your story.

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  4. Sherrie

    Hello well it appears to be working and, as you know, it did not work for me that last try. So thank you. I look forward to visiting your site daily. You area blessing to me.

    1. F. Remy Diederich

      Good to hear. Yes…comments are working. Great to see! The blog feels naked without comments. I look forward to hearing more from you.

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