|Richard Rohr has been a wise companion for me. I’m using a few days of this journey to introduce you to his writings.
Rohr often speaks of the two halves of life. The first half is spent creating a box: rules to live by, unchangeable truths to help you feel in control, and markers that show success. He says these are all a natural part of development, a phase we all grow through: like training wheels on a bicycle.
But the second half of life is meant to let go of these constructs. By letting go of the box you are free to experience life in its fullness. You are no longer threatened by what’s outside of the box. Your thinking becomes less black and white. Less in or out. Less inclined to feel the need to put a value judgment on everything but rather to just experience life as it is.
But to transition to this second half of life requires an exile. A time of stripping. It often feels unsuccessful and contrary to everything you’ve worked so hard to achieve in the first half of life. Here is another post where he refers to the second half of life.