Do you feel worthless? In my book, Healing the Hurts of Your Past, I talk about the pain of shame. Shame is the feeling that comes over a person who feels worthless. It can cripple you.
Shame is rooted in the lies you believe about yourself. A lie that many believe is that they are worthless. They see a flaw, an imperfection, or defect in themselves and take the flying leap of logic that: if they are flawed they have no value. It often causes them to give up. That’s a huge mistake.
The truth is: we are all flawed. No one is perfect. We all wrestle with something. Knowing this doesn’t fix your flaws but it helps defeat another lie: that YOU are the only one with a problem, which leads to another lie: YOU don’t fit in. Everyone else has their act together. YOU are a misfit. So it helps to know we share a common problem.
Flawed, yes. Worthless, no.
We are all flawed, it’s just not so obvious because many people are very good at covering up their flaws. But don’t be fooled. You are not alone.
The Bible tells us that something happened to us all. We lost something. Something’s missing. It’s been that way from the beginning of time. That’s not a lie. That’s the truth. But there’s no need to beat ourselves up, or each other, about it.
The best thing we can do is admit that we are flawed: all of us. Admit our weaknesses and then come together to support each other, asking for God’s help. We create a community of brokenness that is on the mend. This is what the Bible calls the church (but I don’t know if church people always understand that).
I want to encourage you today: don’t let your shame cause you to go into hiding. Face the truth. Admit your flaws to God and others. Most importantly…invite God to speak the truth of his unconditional love into your life. His truth will melt the lies of shame and allow you to take back your life.
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